From Birthday Blues to Birthday Gratitude
The morning of my birthday I woke up with some birthday blues. I wasn’t too surprised as I had been singing, “It’s my party, I can cry if I want to” to myself for a day or two. I decided to get proactive. I started preparing an Instagram post - one that would support me in orienting myself towards positive feelings AND lead to people celebrating my birthday with me (I love being celebrated). Below is my full list of 33 things I am grateful for 🙂
Relationships
❤ friends I've made in the past month - including at the Erosomatic Retreat & Sex Down South
❤ friends I've made in the last year - I truly struggled living in Arizona this past year but I also made some incredible friends
❤ friendships we've maintained over the years - over time and distance <3
❤ loving family
❤ my wonderful life partner
❤ how much I have learned and accepted about myself - especially in my 30s
❤ the way I am redefining my relationship with time to be less urgent
Life's joys & wonders
❤ non-monogamy, especially polyamory
❤ delightful and long orgasms
❤ how dancing heals my soul
❤ waterfalls
❤ oceans
❤ puppies
❤ kittens
❤ furry loving creatures in general
❤ chocolate
❤ cheese
Professional Life
❤ becoming a certified Erosomatic Touch Practioner this month
❤ being a Scholar of Sexology Fellow and getting to study Latina porn magazines and the sex-positive messages in the stories
❤ getting to study Caribbean Hispana sexuality
❤ all I've learned & relationships made from being a pro-liberation and anti-oppression organizing trainer with the Center for Ethnic, Racial, and Religious Understanding
❤ no student loans from MA or PhD program
❤ how I frequently get to meet new people who are awesome at research meetings and conferences
❤ getting to attend conferences with dungeons, burlesque shows, and more!
Self
❤ being Latina
❤ being Boricua
❤ being Jewish
❤ living (mostly) in integrity
❤ loving my body in the mirror most days
❤ my booty, thighs, and breasts
❤ my eyes and smile
❤ being queer, polyam, kinky, neurodivergent
❤ being authentically me
What are you grateful for? Have you ever had the birthday blues?
