Intimacy Insights: What to Expect with Couples Coaching (with me at least)

Every relationship is different and therefore coaching sessions will vary depending upon what the people entering the space need. But with that in mind, it can still be useful to get an idea of what role I will and will not play in your relationship care and exploration.

What I’m not here for…

I am NOT here to keep you together and I am NOT here to break you up.

Instead, I am here to help you get clear about what you are seeking out of your relationship(s) and how this relationship relates to your needs, wants, and limitations. This process includes releasing questioning loyalties to the sunken-cost fallacy (where you might be staying in something that no longer serves those involved because of the years you’ve already dedicated). We’ll get clearer about what does work/doesn’t work and what that means for those involved. The process can be scary but it’s also rewarding - especially in the long-run as it’s a gift that keeps on giving.

I am NOT here to promote one type of relationship over another

While one reason people see me is to support them in transitioning from monogamy to polyamory, that doesn’t mean I think non-monogamy is the right choice for everyone. Together we will explore your values, comforts, and existing beliefs to figure out what makes sense for each individual and for different couplings/units.

I am NOT here to convince your partner to do something they don’t want to do

Consent and boundaries are my bread and butter. Sure, sometimes we set certain boundaries out of fear and insecurity that no longer serve us. However, pushing someone to release those boundaries does not improve their sense of safety (and isn’t consensual). Instead, I will support you in exploring the why behind boundaries to get clearer on what matters to you and how you can best respect yourselves and one another.

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What I am here for…

I AM here to support you in creating more expansiveness and to push-back against binaries

It can be terrifying to feel like you and someone you love no longer make sense - especially when the options appear to be limited to stay together unhappily or break up unhappily. Thankfully, there are so many more relationship options that can be explored. Together we can consider what works within the current relationship and use that as a starting point for restructuring what you currently have. Even partnership styles don’t exist in a binary - maybe neither monogamy nor polyamory are right for you and there are a gazillion other options to explore.

I AM here to support you as individuals as well as a collective

I offer two “New Couple Package” options. Both include shared sessions along with individual sessions. Individual sessions create space to name and experience things that might be difficult during a shared session. The privacy allows us to get deeper into the work which then supports the couple work.

I AM here to offer useful tools for all of your relationships

This includes ways to (re)connect, nurture intimacy, slow-down, practice non-violent communication techniques, and spice things up if this is a sexual relationship.

Interested in trying couple’s coaching sessions?

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