What counts as “dirty talk” can vary widely from naughty whispers to sexy demands and more, but did you know that it can help you increase sexual pleasure and that it doesn’t have to be as awkward as it seems on TV?

I wish I was one of those people who could orgasm in five minutes and every five minutes. But that’s just not me (it might not be you either) and that’s OK.

It’s not uncommon for people with penises to feel (or have their partners feel) they orgasm too quickly and for people with vulvas to feel they are taking too long. The opposite can also be true – people with penises can have partners who feel raw (or whose partners get lockjaw) because of how long their partners last and people with vulvas can feel embarrassed by their body’s quick ecstasy. Whatever your orgasm speed, there are multiple ways to have a satisfying sex life.

July is Disability Pride Month, but we should always promote pride and awareness of people with disabilities. I’m sharing some tips to address three specific accessibility needs within sexual interactions. We all deserve to feel comfortable, safe, and confident when getting it on!