Sometimes you’re tired and just want sex to end or you don’t want to make your partner feel insecure about not helping you climax. Maybe your lover has pleasured your body for 45 minutes and even though it feels great, your orgasm remains beyond the horizon and it embarrasses you or causes guilt. If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone.

Gender identity, gender presentation, and sexual orientation are beautiful and complex forms of identity that mix and match in infinite ways. Sometimes they are completely independent from one another, and at other times, they are so entangled that it would do injustice if separation were attempted. Unfortunately, due to widespread homophobia (and cisnormativity), the meshing or conflating of gender and sexual orientation labels around gender norms can be both limiting as well as used as weapons against different people and communities.

Protip: If you’re asking, " Am I queer?" You probably are.

Find out what inspired Yael Rosenstock to develop and conduct her 'Using the FIve Senses for Arousal' Workshop to help people.

"What made you get into…this?"