How do homosexuals enjoy sex?

Probably the biggest misconception is that there is such a thing as gay sex - or straight sex. You’re gay if you’re gay and the sex positions you choose to enjoy don’t determine your sexual orientation. Sex is just…sex - it’s gender-neutral. We are only limited by our imaginations and the labels we assign to different acts.

But, you’re here for a reason so check out the below for examples of sex positions, roles, and what that can look like with different body and gender pairings.

Gender identity, gender presentation, and sexual orientation are beautiful and complex forms of identity that mix and match in infinite ways. Sometimes they are completely independent from one another, and at other times, they are so entangled that it would do injustice if separation were attempted. Unfortunately, due to widespread homophobia (and cisnormativity), the meshing or conflating of gender and sexual orientation labels around gender norms can be both limiting as well as used as weapons against different people and communities.

As a sex educator, my educational focus is, of course, sex. However, being intentionally inclusive of different communities should be standard practice, not just reserved for specific spaces. The following reminders and tips can be incorporated in health & sex ed classes but also biology, history, and general learning environments.

Growing up in this theater environment probably explains why it took a while for me to learn that most white men aren’t gay. Gay love, alongside straight love, was my reality. No one had to explain sexual orientation to me. Through observation, I learned that men could love each other, and men and women could love each other. It wasn’t until years later that I learned about other folks on the rainbow spectrum but enveloping them into the #loveislove upbringing I received was easy.