if you’re concerned about how much (or how little) you masturbate, how you masturbate, or your level of enjoyment of solo sex, here are some mantras you can adopt.

I once heard someone say that women dress for themselves first, then for other women, and for men last. This was, of course, coming from a heterosexual perspective, but I love the liberation that comes when we realize that we can dress for ourselves first.

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Audio erotica is exactly what it sounds like – sexy stories that are recorded for your listening pleasure!

In a 21st century world, it can be hard to feel connected to anything other than your phone. With all the trouble of the world, choices in life, and struggles with mental health, it can be overwhelming to just exist. But there’s a way you can connect with your body and feel sexy through embodiment exercises. Heal through mindfulness, balance, and self-acceptance. Here are some practices you can add to your day so you can focus in life and the bedroom.

When asked to imagine a particularly satisfying or passionate sex scene, what images flash across your mind?

It can be easy to fall into a routine with long-term partners. The connection or excitement you once felt takes a dip and leaves you feeling more like roommates than lovers. If you can relate, or if you’re looking for ideas that will bring you even closer to your romantic partner(s), try the following tips!

January 21st is National Fetish Day! Wondering what a fetish is? It’s something that’s objectified for someone’s sexual pleasure that is usually outside what society deems as “normal” sexual activity. Common fetishes include feet, uniforms, leather, and piercings. Here are five you might not know but might want to try, starting with J for January!

When I first heard about people repeating to themselves that they were powerful or standing in front of a mirror telling themselves how gorgeous they were, I was doubtful. In fact, it felt cringy and potentially harmful to recommend this tactic to people struggling with their self-esteem. Over time though, I realized I was throwing the baby out with the bathwater by dismissing this idea all together. Therefore, in honor of Self-Love Month, I’m here to help you practice positive affirmations, and positive iffirmations (we’ll explain below), in a way that feels authentic to you and without the discomfort or ick factor.

So, how do gays enjoy sex?

Edging is a sexual technique for intentionally stopping, or reducing, stimulation right before reaching the point of no return, with the goal of delaying orgasm. If you are a fan of teasing or of experiencing the sensation of desperately wanting something and it being tantalizingly just beyond reach, edging might be for you.

Whether you’re not experiencing sexual intimacy as often as you like, are tired of giving into sex you don’t want, or are emotionally exhausted from regularly rejecting a partner’s sexual advances, mismatched libidos can be frustrating and demoralizing for everyone involved.

Here are a couple items that I as a sex & relationships coach feel good recommending as holiday gifts! Some of these items are affiliate links which means that if you use my link or code, I benefit, too! Please note, I am only recommending items and/or creators that I actually like and support :)

Finding new healthcare providers with whom you feel comfortable can be EXHAUSTING. The physical vulnerability of gynecology appointments (being basically naked in stirrups with your vulva waving in the air) can make it feel all the more important to find the right fit. To help you figure out whether the gyno(s) office you’re trying out is a keeper, check out the following yellow & red flags accompanied by some anecdotes graciously shared by some Pure Romance Consultants!

It’s Latinx/Latine/Hispanic Heritage month, so I asked some Latines what messages and lessons they wanted to share about sex and sexuality and it’s giving all the feels.

If you’re feeling awkward, shy, or lacking confidence about your body, identities, or in general (who doesn’t at least sometimes?), it can feel impossible to embrace your sexual self. Thankfully, there are practices you can adopt to become more comfortable with your sexuality and find your groove.

Do you have days where you feel capable of taking on the world – super productive, social, creative, or confident? Then, are there other days where getting anything done feels like a challenge or that you want to cancel all of your plans and enjoy your solitude and nap?

#1 Virginity is a social construct that has no evidence to support it.

So you’re looking for tips and tricks on how to go down on a woman? We’ve got your back. We consulted multiple sex experts and rounded up the best cunnilingus tips and techniques.

Many believe that for a relationship to be considered successful, it must last. Breakups, therefore, are seen as signs of failure and relationships that end, as potential wastes of time.

People respond with excitement and surprise when they learn what I do. Often, I’m the first sex professional they’ve met. This can be especially true in communities of color and immigrant populations. Though sex education/coaching is a growing field, finding culturally relevant resources can still be a challenge, especially if you don’t know where to look.